Days of Solitaire

"I would like to meet that person", you say to yourself. You stand there and stare. Do you even stop to think what effects you are creating, by your staring? for a woman, that can be mighty creepy and unwelcome, so she will either turn away or yell at you.

The spotlight is now on you. Other people, lots of people as a matter of fact may be staring at you now. So, you drop your head or turn your back and hope everybody calms down if you ignore them. This is not the scene one wants when out and about hoping to meet somebody.

Do you ever notice that now and again, somebody says, "Hi." and smile? do you respond or least smile back? How about starting a conversation, "It sure is fall/winter, etc now huh?" or least a subject that you may both be familiar with and comfortable talking about.

I,for one, as a woman, have had four strangers (men), gently tap my arm and say directly to me, "Pardon me, I don't want to scare you or anything but I just have to say, I think you're beautiful." They ran off but can you imagine the effects they left behind even twenty years later? Another time, at the airport, I had a man pinch my butt and when I turned around, a large group of foreign men were standing around, laughing. What effect did they leave?

All we really have to remember is to ask ourselves, how would I feel if somebody was doing or said, this, that or the other thing, to me? To elicit a positive response from somebody we have to give something.

Endorphins are the body's own naturally produced opiate chemicals. When you cause a positive effect upon another you will, or should, get a positive response. If not, then yes, run away. It is like walking up to a door. Do you politely knock or kick at it? What effect do you want to create? After all, impressions are made in the first 30 seconds. So, to meet that person, smile and bear gifts of good will.

Positive Effects of ...

1. Smile - Smile or blush in return (positive response)

- Glare returned (negative response).

2. Compliment - smile,blush and thank you (positive response)

- Rebuke or ignored (negative response)

In the end, a persons reaction to you will say a lot. It will tell you if they appreciate your attentions or not. The choice to delve further into possibilities with the favorable responses, will be yours. Last question to ask before parting should be, "Can I leave my number with you? We can talk some more another time?." and if the answer is yes, then the possibilities of starting a relationship are in your favour. Good luck! Read more --> here.

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