The Bleak Lonely

The day has been full of conversations with people. Co-workers, family, friends and even enemies but there is still a pang of isolation and emptiness. How do we deal with this now?

The same questions and thoughts go through the minds of many people throughout society and it’s not a uncommon question to ask or ponder over. It’s a state of mind and just a matter of learning to identify and understand your own feelings, fears, needs and explore learning about emotional intimacy.

Relationships with your friends, family and co-workers are superficial and don’t always enter in deep emotional discussions. There needs to be people you can open up to discuss your inner emotional self and life experiences. It’s said that the left (the rational) hemisphere of the male brain, is far more developed than their right ( the emotional) hemisphere and the reasons behind discomfort, fears and anxiety.

Developing emotional intimacy with a woman has the draw back that you cannot control the time it requires to develop intimacy as there are lots of other variables involved. Your own self-confidence may be a issue but realize that self-confidence is the belief and knowing that you can handle situations correctly and successfully complete a task.

Depending on others (external dependency) is a practice to escape your emotions and avoid solving problems. Emotional detachment can damage relationships with people as there is again a superficial emotional intimacy. One is going through the motions of a perceived intimacy and only results in parting ways , disappointment and alone again. Trust issues may be stopping you and will need to be resolved.

Actions we can take to help cope with loneliness can be activities such as ;

– join a sports team or club
– volunteer for a charity
– reading
– pamper and love yourself
– exercise
– learn something new

If you have no current problems in your life and reach a understanding of past pains and fears that can affect your present attitudes, then you will be able to be quite content, alone. Whether you watch a movie or go for a walk, you will feel good even if you are doing it alone. When you meet with others, your happiness will soar since sharing emotions with others will only be enhanced and reciprocated.

Keep in mind that openness and honesty are not the same thing. Honesty is answering the questions your partner asks you without lying but openness is telling your partner everything without even being asked.

Learning to identify and communicate your emotions can bring intimacy and nurture strong bonds with another but also overcome loneliness and bring a sense of wholeness. One must accept that emotional honesty is not a display of weakness. Everybody has up times and also down times and we have the choice to dwell in sadness or get proactive. It’s called being human. Read related --> here and there.

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